Well Here Goes Nothing…After a year and a half of blogging I decided it’s about time for me to get personal with you all…after all blogging is about sharing a little bit about yourself…your hobbies, interests, stories etc. I began blogging as an outlet, an escape, a way for me to share my passion of fashion with the world, but what I’ve noticed over the time I’ve started blogging is most girls only share the good…not the bad and certainly not the ugly. Bloggers share what they want the world to see…the picture perfect photos…stunning outfits…gorgeous vacations, but what about everything else that goes on in their life? Is everything as perfect as it appears on instagram? Well maybe it is for some but certainly not for me.

While it took me literally a year to conquer up the courage to open myself up completely I decided that people like people…meaning being genuine, real and yourself is something most people can relate to…hey I love when some bloggers take a chance to reveal a little about themselves (other than their fashion sense) so why am I keeping things under wraps right? Well here it goes…a new weekend series being added to the blog and this one doesn’t include a shopping guide or outfit of the day…it just includes me being me, a weekly diary entry so to speak 😉

Something I have truly been struggling with over the past few years is (drum roll please) dating…Yes I know crazy to think that Prince Charming hasn’t magically shown up on my door step right? haha wrong…Since talking to my friends and just people I meet in my travels I’ve discovered that I shouldn’t be embarrassed or feel weird about discussing my dating life…it’s actually quite comical and has been making my family and close friends laugh for years…let’s just say Carrie Bradshaw has nothing on me and I can only pray that at the end of all this, my Mr.Big comes equipped with a pair of Manolos to seal the deal…till then you guys get to follow along on my journey with me…you are in for a bumpy ride.

Here’s a little background…I’ve been doing online dating for 3.5 years…yes, you heard me…3.5 years…it’s crazy, I literally cringed realizing that which didn’t even come to mind till I was discussing this new dating series with my mom. My parents and friends have encouraged me for years to share the crazy experiences I’ve had with the world but I was so caught up in just wanting to be a ‘fashion blog‘ that I couldn’t bare to think anyone would care about my dating disasters. Who knew my trials and tribulations could be pure entertainment to others :p What finally convinced me to get real + in depth was a recent e-mail I received from an Adelphi University student who reached out to me about a piece she was writing about for the school paper discussing Tinder.

She wrote to me asking if she could interview me for the article. I literally opened the e-mail, read it and laughed hysterical…A) Wondering how she knew I was on Tinder, B) How she found me + C) Why she wanted to hear what I had to say. So naturally I responded to her e-mail with those exact questions…I told her I have stories to last a lifetime, but asked how she came across me…now get ready to laugh because her response literally caused a mass text to all of my friends…She told me she came across my profile on LinkedIn when she searched ‘dating + relationship expert’…I almost died…me? A relationship and dating expert? HAHA Now that is a legit Laugh Out Loud moment…I’ve been on Jdate, Jswipe, Tinder, Plenty Of Fish, Ok Cupid and Coffee Meets Bagel…so I wouldn’t necessarily say I am an expert…but maybe a professional online dating app tester…I wish I could get paid to do it the way people get paid to participate in drug trials because trust me it’s almost what it feels like haha. (PS I still have no idea how I came up when she searched those terms because nowhere did I put any of those things in my profile lol…LinkedIn has a funny sense of humor I suppose)

So now you guys have something to look forward to…A weekly look into the fabulous world of online dating as told by a twenty something gal who has a laundry list of qualities she is looking for in a future beau (I am a picky shit #SorryNotSorry…along with a long list of issues she has herself…hey not everyone can be perfect 😉

So let’s start with what I am looking for…you know in case you find someone who fits the bill haha This is probably one of the top questions I’ve gotten on online dating…’What Are You Looking For?‘ which means:

A) Are you looking to hook up?

B) Are you looking for a relationship?

C) Are you open to either possibility? {which usually means you are willing to hook up but don’t want to come across as the ‘hook up’ kind of gal}

Well ladies and gents I am in fact looking for a relationship…sorry boys but I don’t play games, I have no interest in testing the waters and I most certainly don’t want your dick pics, your selfies or your sexting until I am actually to the point of potentially liking you (which is becoming more + more difficult everyday and even then still prefer if you keep the photos to yourself or maybe start your own blog to share them…I don’t care, just don’t send them to me :p).

I think it’s almost comical when guys ask that question because the thing is when you ask guys that question in return they will do 1 of 2 things…

A) Lie and say they are looking for a relationship because they think that’s what you want to hear and will get them one step closer to sealing the deal

B) Be honest and say they just want to hook up for that off chance you will actually jump on it and say ok let’s do it

Now if you are the kind of gal looking for that then the whole online dating scene is perfect for you…if you are not, it is literally like searching for a needle in a haystack. See, the not so fantastic thing about online dating is the fact that guys will say things online that they would never have the guts to say in real life.

Case in point…have you ever went out with your girlfriends and have a guy approach you asking if he could lick your feet? If you have I would assume the guy was highly intoxicated or high. Online Dating allows guys, girls etc to say everything and absolutely anything.

They can make up a whole new persona…they can be a total player online but in life be the shyest type of guy who would never have the confidence to approach a girl in a bar…but online, he has not a worry in the world…if he gets rejected no one will know about it…no one will judge him and no one will care and within 30 seconds he can hit on a new girl and so on and so forth…pretty crazy right? That’s the thing about being online…you can be the person you always wanted to be and no one else will really know who you are (kind of similar to blogging right?). Well For now I will leave you with that because trust me…there is plenty more where that came from + I truly can’t wait to fully share this part of me with you!

For more of my day to day adventures add me on SnapChat (where I showcase my not so glamorous life haha) – MissyOnMadison

Do you have questions or stories about online dating? E-mail me and share your crazy experiences with me because I would love to hear if we have mutual disasters haha!!

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